10 Day Couple’s Challenge
Updated: Jul 27
Do you feel frustrated with your partner? What have you tried to improve your relationship? Are there other things you can try? In this blog, I have decided to outline steps that you can take to improve your situation. For this to have a positive impact, please do not keep score of what you are doing. It is more effective when you recognize the things that your partner is doing well. Here are a few suggestions:
Be your partner’s friend
Spend quality time with each other and focus on the present
Be kind to your partner
Focus on the words you use to express yourself
Avoid using harsh or condemning remarks
Prioritize your partner after God
Value your relationship
Accept your partner’s influence
Say things like “Good Point”, or “That makes sense”
Look for the “good” in your partner and express it
Pay close attention to what your partner is doing well and let him/her know
Learn to self-soothe
Practice self-soothing techniques towards calming yourself
Take a time-out
Engage in relaxation techniques
Avoid thinking about the conflict that caused an escalated argument
Learn to Repair
Say, “I’m sorry” you’re right
Take a break
Stick with one topic at a time
Do not bring up the past
Look inward
Stop pointing fingers and take an honest look at yourself
Why is the situation upsetting to you?
Commit to your relationship
Emotionally invest in your journey for life
Forgive past hurts
Give yourself permission to forgive your partner/offender for hurting you
Free yourself from emotional pain
As a quick recap, these are some helpful tips of what you can begin focusing on in your relationship to improve the situation and live a more happy and healthy way. Focusing on the negative aspects of your relationship will likely only worsen the situation. Take control of what you can do and stop pointing the finger at your partner. Embrace your relationship with all your might and effort.

