When you married your partner, was it God’s choice or your choice? Some may say that with no doubt it was God’s choice, however others may quickly respond and say it was my choice. Which one is it?
From the time God created Adam and Eve on Earth, he gave them a commandment “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die” Genesis 2:16. In this verse, it is written that although God told Adam and Eve not to eat of one particular tree, they were still granted free will. This is interpreted as although God is clear with His commandments to His children, he allows free will to happen. In Adam and Eve’s situation, it is evident that they forbade God’s commandment to stay away from the tree of good and evil. They, as human beings, chose to turn away from God and make their own decision which resulted in consequences that is present in everyone’s life today.
Therefore, circling back to your marriage, was God present in your decision-making process? God loves all His children and wants nothing more than to see all of you happy, however He allows you free will. He made Eve to be Adam’s partner, “It is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18. As He presents the best partner for you, it is ultimately up to you to either listen to Him or to yourself. How do you know what God wants for you in a partner? Ask yourself if the person who presents himself/herself to you would be pleasing in God’s eyes? Is this person God fearing and a servant of God?
Listen to God and follow His guidance when choosing a lifelong partner and beware of “red flags”. I have listed several personality characteristics to be aware of:
Anger management issues
To ensure a long lasting loving marital relationship, it is important to ask God to guide you to a person who can love and cherish you!