Speaking and Apologizing in Different Languages
Gary Chapman wrote a fruitful book called "The 4 Seasons of Marriage, Secrets to a Lasting Marriage”. Chapman is the author of the #1 New York Times Bestseller The 5 Love Languages which was published in 1992. He sold over 10 million copies in English and translated in 49 different languages. He has also co-authored The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Jennifer Thomas and Five Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace with Dr. Paul White. He travels across the globe presenting seminars on marriage, family, and relationships. He has been married for over 40 years and has two adult children. He focuses in his work is to help people learn how to speak another person's language. It's the same concept as if you were planning to live in a different country that does not identify English as being their native language. Eventually as a foreigner in a different country, you will adapt and begin to speak their language.
How can you improve?
To improve your communication with your loved ones: children, parents, friends, co-workers, supervisors, etc., you will obtain better results when you begin to identify their language and learn how to speak it. Based on my personal experience, I have started to utilize this concept in my home, engaging in social events, and in my workplace. I am pleased to announce that it really works! I have noticed that there are less conflicts in my life and am able to experience healthier and positive relationships. I highly recommend that you invest in purchasing all three books as soon as possible. In my counseling experience, I have suggested that couples purchase the 5 Languages of Love and after completing their reading, to take the assessment available at the back of the book. Once the couple identifies their love languages, the work begins by learning how to speak it. This part takes a lot of practice, but once you get the hang of it, it becomes second nature.
I have also read the 5 Languages of Apologies and this book is powerful. How many times have you found that by just saying "Sorry", you felt that the other person didn't think that was enough. This book outlines how to properly apologize, depending on the other person's apology language. There have been times when I had a difficult time expressing my apology to my husband, but after 26 years of marriage, have discovered his apology language and have begun to speak it. Trust me when I tell you that this really works!! My husband appreciates, accepts, and forgives me when I apologize correctly. Who would have thought that there could be an incorrect way to say, "I'm sorry"? Through reading this book in its entirety, I found out that there are more effective ways to apologize that get you the results you are seeking.