This blog will discuss ways to ensure a lifetime of happiness and satisfaction with your spouse, though a Christian perspective. The first topic to consider is when two people decide to get married, there needs to be “leaving and a cleaving”. This is explained by a verse “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24. This is something to abide by for the rest of one’s life, making your spouse a priority, only second to your relationship to God. This does not mean that you turn away from your mother, father, siblings, friends, co-workers, etc. However, being present in your spouse’s daily life is the most important thing to remember. Cherishing your relationship with significance will guarantee a lifetime of happy marriage. Be sure not to take your relationship for granted and appreciate the little things that sometimes go unnoticed. You aim to be permanently “glued” to one another and never let go of each other, through thick and thin.
“Husbands love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” Ephesians 5:25. The men in relationships should lead spiritually and put her needs above his own. Husbands love your wife as Christ loves the Church which he showed to us by dying on the cross for the world. There is no greater love than God’s love for us, which should guide husband’s love for his wife. He should take care of her as Christ takes care of us every day. Show her how much you love her by making it obvious with both gestures and words. She should know that your love for her is unquestionable and unbreakable.
In return, Wives should respect their husband as it is written in Ephesians 5:33 “…let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Steer away from attacking or ridiculing your husband in front of other people. Be sure to thank him for what he does for you and any sacrifices he makes for you. Instead of telling jokes about him to your friends, tell them how great he is and how much you appreciate everything he does in your marriage. Lift him up and make him feel valued and respected.
Marriage is fragile and to ensure a lifetime of happiness, it needs nourishment. Imagine what would happen if you stopped watering your plant and placed it in darkness. Marriage that has experienced darkness can return to experience significant joy when each partner makes a choice to love and respect each other. This blog does not indicate that husbands do not need to feel loved, and wives need respect, however husbands need to feel respected first and wives need to feel loved first.
“Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband” Genesis 2:24.