Victim or Victor
What’s the difference between victim and victor? Understanding the difference may help you recognize times when you have experienced being a victim vs a victor.
Victim
Loses their voice
Curses themselves and others
Makes bad bargains
Feeds hatred
Remains in denial
Gets lost in blame
Isolates
Looks into reactivity
Normalizes panic
Stops thinking creatively
Organizes around anxiety
Pretends to know the future
Chooses distractions over solutions
Gets religious rather than spiritually grounded
Victor
Refocuses to doing a few things well
Refuses to curse self or others
Use their voice to accurately express their needs, perspectives, and experiences
Looks for God in the wilderness
Accepts transition
Connects with the rooted
Tell themselves the truth
Looks for creative solutions
Does not skimp on self-care
Predicts their own survival and thriving
Renews their first love
Rejects black & white (all good vs all bad) thinking
There is a little bit of victim and victor in us all. When have you most felt or behaved like a victim? When have you felt or behaved most like a victor?
