Victim or Victor

What’s the difference between victim and victor? Understanding the difference may help you recognize times when you have experienced being a victim vs a victor.

Victim

• Loses their voice

• Curses themselves and others

• Makes bad bargains

• Feeds hatred

• Remains in denial

• Gets lost in blame

• Isolates

• Looks into reactivity

• Normalizes panic

• Stops thinking creatively

• Organizes around anxiety

• Pretends to know the future

• Chooses distractions over solutions

• Gets religious rather than spiritually grounded

Victor

• Refocuses to doing a few things well

• Refuses to curse self or others

• Use their voice to accurately express their needs, perspectives, and experiences

• Looks for God in the wilderness

• Accepts transition

• Connects with the rooted

• Tell themselves the truth

• Looks for creative solutions

• Does not skimp on self-care

• Predicts their own survival and thriving

• Renews their first love

• Rejects black & white (all good vs all bad) thinking

There is a little bit of victim and victor in us all. When have you most felt or behaved like a victim? When have you felt or behaved most like a victor?